“I’ve Never Met A Girl Like You”: Woman Asks Whether Men Mean What They Say on Dates—Internet Reacts

Reddit Debate Questions Whether Dating Compliments Are Genuine

A question on Reddit’s r/dating_advice has triggered a debate about whether men mean what they say during the early stages of dating. The post, titled “Do men say identical things to every woman they date?”, was shared on November 13 by user u/No_Figure1662, who described repeatedly hearing similar romantic statements on first and second dates.

The Reddit user said many of the men she had dated used lines such as “You’re the type of woman I’d want to settle down with” and “I’ve never met a girl like you before.” She noted that the men came from “different ages, careers, ethnicities and areas,” yet appeared to rely on the same expressions.

“I’d like to know, are these things you genuinely mean when you say them (if you have), or are they just fairly standard things you say when you’re interested in a woman?” the Reddit user asked. “Do you actually see these women as potential wives, or is it more about making someone feel special in the moment? Do you think saying things like this on date 1 is a bit much?”

Commenters Disagree Over Men’s Intentions

The post attracted 687 comments and more than 397 upvotes within 13 hours. Some commenters argued that the statements were superficial lines used to pursue women, while others said people may make sweeping declarations in the heat of the moment without carefully considering their meaning.

“Some men do this. The ones that do this as early on as you describe, like one or two dates in, are often speaking in these grand clichés and saying what they think you want to hear,” one user wrote. The original poster responded that it is a “terrible way to get an emotionally intelligent woman to fall for them.”

Another commenter wrote, “Dude here: They say those things because they think that’s what you want to hear before you will sleep with them.” Other participants blamed the original poster for attracting men who behaved this way, while some argued that women also use similar phrases when dating.

Advice Ranges From Optimism to Caution

Not every response was critical. “Maybe you’re just actually wife material,” one user said in a supportive comment. Another urged skepticism about verbal promises: “There are a lot of liars and manipulators on the dating market. Do not believe words ever – it takes 3 months of regular interaction in person, (not texting because it’s faceless and meaningless) to get to know each other.”

Why This Matters

The discussion highlights a broader challenge in modern dating: early declarations can be interpreted either as sincere expressions of attraction or as familiar language intended to create emotional closeness quickly. In this case, Reddit users disagreed over whether repeated phrases reflect genuine compatibility, momentary enthusiasm, or an attempt to influence a date’s feelings.

The post does not establish whether the men described by u/No_Figure1662 were sincere or deceptive. The Daily Dot could not independently verify the claims in the post, and the identities of the commenters have not been confirmed.

Frequently Asked Questions

What did the Reddit post ask?

The post asked whether men genuinely mean familiar statements about settling down or meeting someone unlike anyone they had dated before, particularly when those statements are made on the first or second date.

How did Reddit users respond?

Commenters were divided. Some said the statements were manipulative or designed to tell women what they wanted to hear, while others said people may make such comments impulsively. Some also suggested that women use similar dating phrases.

Was the Reddit discussion independently verified?

No. The Daily Dot said it could not independently verify the claims in the post, and the identities of the commenters had not been confirmed.